"Affliction is anonymous…; it deprives its victims of their personality and makes them into things. It is indifferent; and it is the coldness of this indifference - a metallic coldness - that freezes all those it touches right to the depths of their souls. They will never find warmth again. They will never believe any more that they are anyone.
- Simon Weil"
Many people are destroyed by loss because, learning what they could have been but failed to be, they choose to wallow in guilt and regret, to become bitter in spirit, or to fall into despair. While nothing they can do will reverse the loss, it is not true that there is nothing they can do to change. The difference between despair and hope, bitterness and forgiveness, hatred and love, and stagnation and vitality lies in the decision we make about what to do in the face of regrets over an unchangeable and painful past. We cannot change the situation but we can allow the situation to change us. We exacerbate our suffering needlessly when we allow one loss to lead to another. That causes gradual destruction of the soul.
This destruction of the soul represents the tragedy of what I call the “second death,” and it can be a worse tragedy than the first. The death that comes through loss of spouse, children, parents, health, job, marriage, childhood, or any other kind is not the worst kind of death there is. Worse still is the death of the spirit, the death that comes through guilt, regret, bitterness, hatred, immorality, and despair. The first kind of death happens to us; the second kind of death happens in us. It is a death we bring upon ourselves if we refuse to be transformed by the first death.
When you squeeze an orange you get orange juice because that’s what’s inside. The very same principle is true about you. When someone squeezes you-puts pressure on you-what comes out is what’s inside. And if you don’t like what’s inside you can change it by changing your thoughts.
"To that broken girl, hoping “Mr. Right” will make her finally feel valuable: Only One can love you perfectly. His name is Jesus, and He’s already pursuing you. Stop running and come hide in His arms!"